Reclaiming family dinner: A new year brings a call for the return of meal togetherness
Imagine a world where the dinner bell rings, and feet from nooks and crannies all around the house come shuffling to the table. There, great bowls spill with home-cooked foods. The table is set with silverware and napkins, cloth ones. Conversation, the give-and-take of great ideas, or silly stories, flows. Laughter punctuates the tinkling of forks and knives, scraping against the plates. Someone asks, politely, "Please pass the peas."
Scratch that. Imagine not the whole wide world that way, but just one house. Your house.
Imagine that soccer practice isn't smack-dab at the dinner hour. Imagine you're not driving through the Drive-Thru and calling it "good enough." Imagine that the TV isn't roaring.
Radical imagination, we know.
But we're about to get radical. Really, really radical.
It's time, people, to reclaim the family dinner.
It is, in our measure, not only essential for the care and comfort of the ones you love, but it also lays down a lifetime of memory that stands a chance of stoking generation after generation. Family dinner goes a long way toward keeping civilization from crumbling. The body politic, you might say, is launched with fork and spoon. Sopping up spilled milk is mere rehearsal for decades of diplomacy.
No short order, surely.
And, yes, yes, we know ...
There are a million and one reasons that it's practically as hard to get food on the table and bodies in the chairs after a long, hard day as it is to, heck, circle the moon.
We know, thanks to the most up-to-the-minute snapshot by the market research gurus at the NPD Group, in a study titled "Dinnertime MealScape 2009," that if a camera peeked in the kitchen window of every American household we would see slightly more than half of them eating all together (an uptick, thanks likely to the recession). But in a third of the homes, meals are being eaten in shifts. In almost 4 out of 10 households, the TV is blaring during dinner. In 4 percent of the households, there's a computer right beside the dinner plate. And the computer is whirring away.
The bottom line, according to NPD's Kim McLynn: "There are more (of us eating together) than what most people believe, but we're approaching it in the easiest way possible."
Are we cranking up the stove, peeling a real potato, doing any actual cooking? "We're looking for any way around that," McLynn said.
Behold the counterargument.
"Family dinner is one-stop shopping for health and wellness," declared Lucinda Scala Quinn, co-host of PBS' "Everyday Food," executive food director for Martha Stewart Living Omnimedia and author of "Mad Hungry: Feeding Men & Boys" (Artisan, $27.95).
"You have to eat, so why not nourish the ones you love physically, emotionally, spiritually?" Quinn asks. "You're using this necessary function to create a lifelong dialogue with the people you live with."
It won't happen overnight, she cautioned. "It's a day-in-and-day-out commitment, and there aren't rewards all the time. But when you see it, not all the money in the world could buy it. Each of those moments is like a little pearl on a necklace. When you look back on those pearls — when you have a 22-year-old who invites you for dinner, when you have a kid who likes vegetables, when you think of all the laughter and stories and learning that took place at the table — you're going to have a magnificent necklace."
Chef and cookbook author Lisa Schroeder couldn't agree more.
The dinner table, she said, "is a great location for many lessons of civilization. We pass the plate, we use tongs instead of grabbing. It opens a door for all sorts of communication. Sometimes you just have to set aside the time and make it happen."
Schroeder, a European-trained chef and single mom who felt so compelled to preserve home cooking that she opened Mother's Bistro & Bar in Portland, Ore., recently tucked 150 of her favorite recipes into a new cookbook, "Mother's Best: Comfort Food That Takes You Home Again" (Taunton Press, $28).
Anna Last, editor of "Everyday Food," the magazine that strives to make it doable to cook dinner any night of the week, said we need to ditch the notion that it's OK to sit in front of the TV, shoveling in food.
"It's about breaking a habit," she said. "I don't know why every day can't be a celebration. Or an everyday inspiration."
EASY STEPS TO BRING BACK FAMILY DINNERS IN 2010
So, you're taking the plunge. You've decided, darn it, you're reclaiming family dinner, making it your own, an oasis of contentment among the daily chaos. Do not underestimate the power of that utterly essential Step No. 1, the decision to just do it.
But now maybe you're scratching your head, wondering how the heck to get to Step No. 2 and beyond? Well, here's a slew of smart thinking to get you where you're dreaming: Family Dinner, the Civilized Way.
Don't go it alone:Enlist the kiddies. Demonstrate the carrot peeler. Teach the fine points of knife, fork and spoon, and where to plop them on the table. Appoint a vice president of salad.
Aim for three:Start slowly. Do not set out to make dinners seven nights a week. Start with only one, if that's all you can handle. Build up to three. Extra credit for anything beyond.
Don't wait till tummies growl:Planning is everything. Sketch out ideas for maybe three meals in a given week. Everyday Food's Lucinda Scala Quinn says shopping is 50 percent of the equation, and she does it all early Sunday mornings. Everyday Food, the magazine, gives you shopping lists for a week at a time. Quinn loves to knock out plenty of cooking on Sundays, with all hands on deck, making it a lively kitchen tableau.
Compound recipes:Learn to think like a smart someone who knows that one easily divides into three. Roast chicken one night turns into chicken and dumplings the next night, and chicken soup the night after that.
Block by block:Break down your meal prep into 10-minute tasks. Whip up a quick marinade before work, toss chicken breasts and marinade in a food storage bag. Rinse and dry greens, tuck back in fridge. Rinse and chop broccoli to steam later on. Sometimes just lining up ingredients is enough to jumpstart the later-in-the-day cooking.
Stick with what you know:No one says family dinner need be a five-fork affair. Simple homemade food is guaranteed to satisfy. If you're inclined to test one new recipe, round out the meal with standbys — your killer vinaigrette, the no-brainer baked potato.
A supporting cast:Salad from the salad bar plus garlic bread from the freezer equal easy sides for that bubblin' pot of spaghetti and meatballs. Who cares if you didn't slave over every last bit of it?
Dig in, everybody:Serve family-style, says chef and cookbook author Lisa Schroeder. Gets everyone talking as they pass the pasta, slide the Parmesan cheese down the table.
Never underestimate the aromatics:Corollary here is, "If they smell it, they will come." Just watch what happens when you get the garlic sizzling, onions browning. Same goes for cinnamon wafting from the oven. The aromatic bliss floating from the kitchen is the surest dinner bell ever.
Down-home details:A dash of cinnamon atop the poured-from-a-jar applesauce, a sprinkling of paprika on the sour cream. You needn't knock yourself out on every dish to impart that mama's-at-the-stove dash of lovin' from the kitchen.
Embrace the beautiful:Splurge on new cloth napkins. Light candles on a Tuesday night. Tuck fresh herbs on the plates. You'll be surprised how those little touches revive the flagging spirit of all who gather there — especially the cook.
FLAT ROAST CHICKEN
Prep: 10 minutes Cook: 45 minutes Rest: 10 minutes Makes: 6 servings
Adapted from "Mad Hungry: Feeding Men & Boys," by Lucinda Scala Quinn. She writes: "How many times have I made roast chicken over the years? Thousands. Speed has become more and more of a concern — getting the food out fast to a horde of ravenous males. One day, in a rush, we simply cut the backbone out and laid the whole bird flat, and cooked it in under an hour.
1 whole chicken, 3 to 4 pounds, backbone removed
½ teaspoon coarse salt plus a pinch
Freshly ground black pepper
¼ cup extra-virgin olive oil
2 tablespoons unsalted butter
3 tablespoons fresh lemon juice
¼ teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes
2 cloves garlic, smashed or chopped
1. Heat oven to 400 degrees. Cut along both sides of backbone with kitchen shears to remove; reserve backbone for broth. Spread bird down flat, skin side up. Press down firmly on breastbone to flatten. Pat dry with paper towels. Season with salt and pepper to taste on both sides.
2. Heat large ovenproof skillet over high heat. Add 1 tablespoon of the olive oil and 1 tablespoon of the butter. Add chicken, skin side down; cook until browned, 3 minutes. Turn, being careful not to break the skin. Transfer skillet to oven. Cook until chicken is golden brown and cooked through, 40-45 minutes. Remove chicken to cutting board; let rest 10 minutes. Add 1 tablespoon of the lemon juice and remaining 1 tablespoon of the butter to the pan drippings; whisk.
3. Whisk together remaining 3 tablespoons of the olive oil, 2 tablespoons of the lemon juice, red pepper flakes, garlic and pinch of salt in a bowl. Cut chicken into pieces; drizzle with lemon sauce and pan sauce.
Per serving: 375 calories, 67 percent of calories from fat, 28 g fat, 8 g saturated fat, 105 mg cholesterol, 1 g carbohydrates, 30 g protein, 249 mg sodium, 0 g fiber
MEXICAN EGG SCRAMBLE
Prep: 15 minutes Cook: 15 minutes Makes: 6 servings
Adapted from "Mad Hungry: Feeding Men & Boys," by Lucinda Scala Quinn.
18 corn tortillas or 1 bag salted tortilla chips
1 tablespoon vegetable oil
5 green onions, chopped
4 serrano or jalapeno chilies, minced
1 large tomato, coarsely chopped
1¼ teaspoons coarse salt
¼ cup chopped fresh cilantro, optional
1 dozen large eggs
1. If using corn tortillas, toast individually over gas flame on low, or in a pan for about 40 seconds per side. Stack on top of each other; wrap in foil or a clean kitchen towel to steam.
2. Heat 14-inch skillet over high heat; add oil. Stir in onions and chilies. Add tomatoes, salt and cilantro. Cook, stirring, 2 minutes.
3. Whisk eggs together in bowl. Add to skillet; cook, stirring often, just until eggs are set,1 to 2 minutes. Scoop a portion of eggs on to each plate; serve with tortillas, or crumble tortilla chips over the egg mixture.
Per serving: 348 calories, 36 percent of calories from fat, 14 g fat, 4 g saturated fat, 423 mg cholesterol, 40 g carbohydrates, 18 g protein, 552 mg sodium, 5 g fiber
SAUSAGE, MOZZARELLA AND BROCCOLI RABE WITH SHELLS
Prep: 35 minutes Cook: 40 minutes Makes: 4 servings
Adapted from a recipe by Anna Last, editor of "Everyday Food"
2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil
1 large onion, chopped
3 sprigs thyme
½ teaspoon coarse salt
Freshly ground pepper
2 cloves garlic, chopped
¾ pound spicy Italian sausage, casings removed
1 tablespoon flour
1 can (28 ounces) whole peeled tomatoes
8 ounces medium shell pasta
1 pound broccoli rabe, trimmed, coarsely chopped
6 ounces fresh mozzarella, cut into ½-inch pieces
¼ cup grated Parmesan
1. Heat oven to 400 degrees. Heat oil in a large skillet over medium-high heat. Add onion and thyme; season with salt and pepper. Cook, stirring occasionally, until onion is golden, 15 minutes.
2. Add garlic and sausage. Cook, breaking up meat, until browned, about 5 minutes. Add flour; cook, stirring, 30 seconds. Add tomatoes, breaking them up with spoon. Cook until slightly thickened, 5-8 minutes. Season with salt and pepper. Discard thyme.
3. Meanwhile, heat a large pot of salted water to a boil; add pasta. Cook 4 minutes less than package instructions. Add broccoli rabe; cook 15 seconds. Drain; return to pot. Stir in sausage mixture. Transfer to a 3-quart baking dish or divide among four 16-ounce gratin dishes. Top with mozzarella and Parmesan. Bake until cheese has melted and liquid is bubbling, about 15 minutes.
Per serving: 665 calories, 43 percent of calories from fat, 31 g fat, 12 g saturated fat, 64 mg cholesterol, 64 g carbohydrates, 32 g protein, 1,324 mg sodium, 5 g fiber