Aunt doesn’t feel good about backing bad nephew
By Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar
Creators Syndicate Inc.
DEAR ANNIE: My 34-year-old nephew brought his computer to a shop to be fixed. On the hard drive, the repairman found three videos and 15 pictures of child pornography. My nephew was arrested and is facing jail time. He has asked numerous people to send letters to the judge attesting to his good character.
Annie, his character is not good. He could never hold down a job and is angry at the world. His other aunt is on a mission to have all family members write a letter for him. I say, let him pay for what he has done and maybe he can get some help in jail and come out of this a better person. What do you say? — Grandmother of Two
DEAR GRANDMOTHER: Unfortunately, prison doesn’t always translate to therapy, which is what your nephew needs. However, you should not write a letter if you don’t believe in what you are saying. If your refusal will cause a rift, simply tell his other aunt that you will "do your best." And apparently, your best is to decline. You don’t need to tell her, or anyone else, what choice you’ve made.
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