So have you ever been in one of those relationships where you think you're doing everything you can to please your partner but they're still feeling frustrated and unloved?

Most of us think that the way we want to be loved is how others want to be loved as well. But this is not the case. If you're not speaking the same language as your partner, then you could be missing the mark completely and not even know it. It's the equivalent of a British guy trying to talk to a Chinese guy. It's not going to go well because they're simply not going to understand each other.

If you're going to have a strong relationship you have to know how you and your partner both give and receive love. According to Dr. Gary Chapman, there are five love languages. The five love languages are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.

In this week's podcast, I go through each one a little deeper. Most of us should only have one primary love language. Sure, we may like all those things, but one of them should resonate with you the most.

Think about each one and imagine your partner doing each one in turn, and see how you feel. If you're still having a hard time, we’ll look at a couple of ways to help you figure out your love language.

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If you don't know your love language, how is your partner supposed to know it? How is your partner supposed to love you in the way that you want to be loved if you don't know how you want to be loved? Once you identify your love language, think about these love languages from your partner's perspective. Can you identify their love language? For example, if you discover that “Words of Affirmation” is your partner's love language, make sure you give them genuine compliments and tell them often, how much you appreciate, and love them.

Find your love language in this week's podcast. "Wisdom with Charlie Perkins."

About Charlie Perkins

Charlie Perkins is an author, musician, photographer, and videographer based in Rochester. The Chicago-bred Perkins attended Northwestern University concentrating on Radio, TV Broadcasting, and Interpersonal Communications. He spent 29 years at Harris Bank in Chicago and taught “Principles of Corporate Television” Columbia College in the same city. He has also spent 17 years as Unit Manager, Media Support Services for the Mayo Clinic. In a previous life, he covered the Chicago Bulls and Michael Jordan’s championship run, ’96-‘98 as a freelance photographer.